Meeting up a girl you’ve never spoken to before is like taking a dip in icy water. It makes you nervous.
Your heart starts beating faster than you can count and your stomach inches closer to your tongue with each step you take. But as a guy knowing how to approach a girl is one of the most important things to know in the dating world.
Now I’m not going to make this any more difficult than you already assume it to be. Yes, talking to a girl who’s a stranger is not easy but then again, if you know just how to do it without appearing like you’re picking her up, you’ll realize just how easy the whole game can be.
Forget pick up lines, forget bumping into her, and every other smart move you’ve heard. I’ll teach you to keep it simple, and help you win her heart even before you say ‘hello’.
just follow these steps and you’ll win her attention before you finish your drink! You need to let the girl know you’re going to approach her. So warm her up to that idea to begin with by using these steps.
1 Glance at her.
Look at her now and then just to let her know that you’re trying to catch her attention. Be sneaky and discreet, and always look away just as soon as she catches your eye. You’ll rouse her curiosity and that will force her to look at you now and then to see if you’re still watching her.
2 The eye contact.
Each time she is meeting you, look at her and immediately look away sheepishly. Continue to look at her now and then, and once in a while, lock your gaze at her for a small fraction of a second and look away again.
By doing this you’re already building the sexual attraction but if she doesn’t reciprocate here, she’s probably not interested in you.
3 Appear awkward.
If you’re with your friends look at her now and then, but appear like you’re distracted and not able to focus on the conversation you’re having with your friends.
By doing that, you’re making her see that she’s on your mind and you’re too distracted to focus on your friends. That’s subtle flattery!
4 Smile at her.
Exchange eye contact now and then, one or two times every minute and no more than that, and when you feel pretty courageous, flash a tiny smile from the corner of your lip for a second, and let her notice your smile. Don’t give her a big grin though, a malicious big grin at this stage will scare any girl away.
These moves are all about building the connection and letting she know that you’re interested in her
And at the same time, it’ll also help you understand if she too is really interested in you.
If she responds to your gestures similarly, it’s a sign that she’s interested in talking to you too. But if she starts ignoring you at any point here, she’s probably not interested in meeting you and you need to try your luck somewhere else.
Now that you’ve built the attraction and the chemistry, all you need to do is walk up to her and say something. Use these tips to approach her and start the right conversation.
5 Waiting for the moment.
Sometimes, all you need to do is wait for the girl to give you a chance to talk to her. If she’s really interested in you and wants to speak to you, she will create enough chance for you to walk up to her and talk.
She could do this by walking to the ladies room alone, stepping away from her friends by answering a phone call, or even by just smiling at you and leaving the place.
It’s always easier to talk to a girl when she’s by herself. There are no distractions from her friends or awkward moments because she’s already expecting you to approach her
6 Picking her up from afar.
Gesticulate. Use the right gestures to get her attention. This is tricky, but as long as you get the message across, it’ll still work as long as you do it confidently.
Look straight at her and smile. Jerk your neck sideways just a little bit after you lock your eyes with her, and using your eyes, point her to the bar counter or some exit.
Even if she doesn’t get it, you can walk up to the place you were pointing at by yourself, and she’ll know what you mean.
Not all girls may appreciate you gesticulating at her and asking her to walk up to you, but if you’ve built the chemistry from afar, she’d be more than happy to get away from her friends and give you a chance to talk to her.